Welcome to a place where students, faculty and staff can find candid answers to all those things about sex that they never dared to ask.
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Do women have squirting orgasms? -A Gushing Student
Dear AGS:
To be blunt, yes. Women are capable of ejaculating during orgasms more times and in great enough volume to put the horniest high school boy to shame. Female ejaculation is usually caused by G-Spot stimulation and the woman’s orgasms often are more intense then what she might be used to. The reason a lot of women don’t ejaculate when they have an orgasm is because the feeling just prior to coming is the same as when they urinate, and so they cut it off, not wanting to give their partner an unprompted golden shower.
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If you’re going to try and get your girlfriend, fuck-buddy or best friend’s sister to have this kind of orgasm, there’s one important thing to be kept in mind: she needs to feel relaxed and comfortable. This doesn’t mean getting her a pillow or slipping her a roofie. It means that you can’t behave in a way that’s going to make her feel like you’re judging her or repulsed by her body. Many of people’s sexual hang-ups stem from discomfort, and if you aren’t willing to provide a safe environment for your partner, she won’t be willing to share potentially embarrassing parts of herself. This means it’s probably a bad idea to show up wearing a trash bag that you’ve cut holes in for your arms and head to fit through.
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If you are fantasizing about someone and they tell you to stop in the fantasy, and you don’t, is that considered wrong? -Inquiring Minds
Dear IM:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. To limit yourself in anyway in a fantasy would be to defy the principles that the term “fantasy” was built upon. The more eclectic the situations you fantasize about, the more spice and variety you bring to your relationship whether it’s with a woman, a man, your five best friends, or that secret weapon that thankfully only requires batteries. Let your imagination run as wild as the buffalo in the old west. Hell, fantasize about a buffalo, at least they can’t say no, and if they can, run with it. Just remember, when it comes to acting out your fantasies, always consult your partner. Communication in a relationship about what you want behind closed doors is just as important as the fantasy itself. Bear in mind that fantasizing is healthy. There is no shame in a crazy, outlandish fantasy; just as long as you and your partner are on the same page when it comes time for the fantasies to come out of your head and into the bedroom, on a beach or in the middle of a busy intersection. Take it from me, the last thing your partner needs is to come home from a busy day’s work and find scented candles, romantic music, and you and a buffalo in bed getting ready for a three way of animalistic proportions.
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What’s the difference between “intersex” and “transgender” – A Boy Named Sue
Dear ABNS:
According to the Intersex Society of North America, www.isna.org, “‘Intersex’ is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.” In a society where so much is based on the male/female dichotomy, intersex provides a term for people who are born on that fine line dividing the genders
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– so much on that line they have physical characteristics of both genders. A hermaphrodite is an extreme example of this.
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Transgender, according to the National Transgender Advocacy Coalition, www.ntac.org, is another broad term which covers “drag queens, drag kings, cross-dressers, stone butches, she-males, transgenderists and transsexuals.” The NTAC is quick to point out that some queens, kings and cross-dressers don’t count because they just do it for fun. Rather than being on the line between the genders, transgenders have swapped teams.
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