By Kristie Green
Alive Editor
And Sheera LaBelle, R.N.
University Health Services
Some college students leave school before graduating for lots of reasons: maybe the “fit”‘ wasn’t quite right for them, or maybe they really wanted to be going somewhere else or doing something else. But one of the most common factors influencing a student’s decision to leave college is the feeling of isolation – a sense that the student has few if any friends at college and is basically alone most of the time.
Everyone wants and needs friends. But for many students – particularly first-year students – making new friends at school is difficult. Fortunately, if you’re one of many students who find it tough to meet new people and make friends on campus, there are lots of things you can do to increase your chances. Some suggestions:
Talk to other students in your classes. Being in the same class with someone gives you a natural connection – you already have something in common. During your next class period, try having a casual conversation with the person sitting next to you.
If you have a roommate, make a conscious effort to get to know him or her. Often this person, or persons, may be (or seem to be) very different from you. All the better . The more diverse the group of people you know, the more you’ll learn and grow yourself.
Get to know your student leaders – particularly resident assistants and PACK leaders. These students are trained to help other students fit in and feel comfortable with the college experience. They also tend to be good listeners and problem solvers. Talk with them about your feelings of “aloneness” and ask them for ideas on how to meet others.
Join a campus organization. Check your student handbook, the Office of Student Involvement (Gorham #5470), Center for Student Involvement (Portland #4942), Portland Campus Recreation (#4630), Gorham Rec. (#5464) are good places to start. You might also consider starting a student group of your own in something that interests you.
Participate in faculty and staff “get-to-know-you” programs. Take advantage of these activities. The offer a chance to meet faculty involved in areas of interest to you.
Attend campus programs. Entertainers, comedians, various speakers; there is a vast array of programs and performances on both campuses that provide an opportunity to be entertained and get out socially.
Get a part-time job. On or off campus – both are good ways to meet people, and you could probably use the extra money.
Know your community. Portland is an interesting town with a variety of things going on. Get out, walk around, and meet people. It’s a good way to amuse yourself while putting down some roots and finding out what the city has to offer.
Making friends takes an active effort on your part, especially in a new place. But the effort pays off, not only for you but for the other students you might meet – some of whom are likely feeling the same sense of isolation that you are. Get out of your cocoon and give it a try.